Posted February 13, 2014

Michael Sam’s father struggling with news his son is gay

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Michael Sam Senior Bowl (Michael Chang/Getty Images)

Michael Sam had the North team’s only sack in the Senior Bowl. (Michael Chang/Getty Images)

Michael Sam received plenty of support after he came out as gay on Sunday.

But his father, Michael Sam, Sr., said he was having trouble adjusting to the news. He received a text message from his son last Tuesday saying he was gay as Sam Sr. was celebrating his birthday at a Denny’s near his home outside Dallas.

“I couldn’t eat no more, so I went to Applebee’s to have drinks,” Sam Sr. told The New York Times. “I don’t want my grandkids raised in that kind of environment.

“I’m old school. I’m a man-and-a-woman type of guy.”

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Sam’s father was still struggling with the news upon his son’s announcement on Sunday.

“As a black man, we have so many hurdles to cross,” he said. “This is just one he has to cross.”

Sam Sr. said he loves his son and hopes he makes it to the NFL, but he said that he’s uncomfortable with the idea of a gay NFL player.

Sam has reportedly always had a rocky relationship with his family and tends to stay with friends when he returns to his hometown, The Times reports.

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72 comments
cb6352
cb6352

he will definettly be a pariah in the locker room of any team that drafts him. of course he might be popular in prison! what people do behind doors is no bodies business. a sex act is not a thing to prance around and show it off. unless your doing it with bo derek. god she was hot!

ScarFace292929
ScarFace292929

Obviously they must have a rocky relationship, since Michael Jr. decided to send a text message for such an important announcement. 

AlyssaVallore
AlyssaVallore

"...we cannot deny that HIV is a gay disease. We have to own that and face up to that." -- Matt Foreman, former executive director of the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force

HIV/AIDS is a disease that is eventually debilitating and fatal. It is bad, not good. It is unacceptable, not acceptable. To say we are fighting against HIV/AIDS when we coddle or approve of the behavior that causes (transmits) HIV/AIDS is completely hypocrisy.

If we love people, we must point out the behavior that puts them at risk of acquiring HIV/AIDS.  True love and true care for children and adults will teach them to protect themselves from HIV/AIDS and other sexually-transmitted diseases. How? By learning and practicing sexual abstinence outside of man-woman marriage, and practicing monogamy and fidelity within man-woman marriage. This is the only "safe sex" there is!

I was shocked and gripped by the news that 3% of Washington DC residents are infected with HIV/AIDS. This is an epidemic level, even surpassing the atrocious rates in West Africa.

The federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that homosexuality and bisexuality cause 85% of HIV infections in America (“high-risk heterosexual activity” is defined as non-homosexuals -- mostly women -- who had sexual intercourse with a “bisexual.”)

The California Office of AIDS reports homosexuality, bisexuality and transsexuality cause 83% of HIV infections in California.

In places that attack and demean sexual boundaries, the homosexual-bisexual-transsexual causation of HIV/AIDS transmission is even higher. In "free sex" San Francisco, 90% of HIV/AIDS cases are "men who have sex with men" (75%) and "men who have sex with men" who also use intravenous drugs (15%). The "free sex" philosophy is a lie, because there is a high cost to ignoring the natural and moral boundaries of sex.

California's Democrat-controlled Legislature is in denial of the behavior that transmits HIV/AIDS. Until 2005, California government refused to even report the incidence and transmission of HIV, leaving people in the dark.

HIV/AIDS is spreading among those who have bought the lie that they can't control their behavior. The estimated number of new infections occurring each year in CA is between 5,000 and 7,000.  The revised estimate of persons in CA HIV-infected but unaware, is between 27,369 and 33,513 as of the end of 2008.

Yet the politically-correct denial of the government, the media, the AIDS establishment and homosexual groups continues to unlovingly perpetuate disease and death. So do the the government schools, which, in junior high and high school, teach children that fornication is expected and that homosexuality, bisexuality and transsexuality are natural.

Take action to protect your children and grandchildren. Get a DVD from the National Physicians Center and give them the truth about sex. Teach them how moral sexual boundaries will protect them, and how sexual activity is good when reserved for marriage. If you don't teach children the truth, others are going to teach them destructive lies. 

And please don't give money to HIV/AIDS groups in your community. Unless shown otherwise, you've got to assume they're part of the HIV/AIDS establishment that perpetuates the problem by coddling bad sexual behavior that spreads this killer disease. - See more at: http://savecalifornia.com/hiv-aids-is-predominately-a-homosexual-disease.html#sthash.jCOjeWYy.dpuf

slickwilly
slickwilly

Grandkids? I guess he didn't get the memo, but there ain't no grandkids coming Michael Sam, Sr.

DaveLwe
DaveLwe

Now, that finally makes sense. It's sad but your probably right.

bornindetroit
bornindetroit

He's been a projected 4th rounder at the very best - many said an undrafted FA. He's planned this out.... Probably got lawyers lined-up. Looking to get paid after not making an NFL roster.

bornindetroit
bornindetroit

Watch the self-professed "tolerant" bury this guy.

Love the sinner (all of us) hate the sin...

DaveLwe
DaveLwe

Why is this important? Shut up about it nobody cares one bit if a football player is gay or not just play the game and stop bringing attention to yourself if he would have kept his business to himself nobody would care one bit-we never did care. It's as old as the race card-nobody cares!

Robert96
Robert96

That is so sad.............As a dad, this is one of the worst things a dad could hear.

Ncsooner
Ncsooner

How is this a Sports Illustrated article?


Stick to sports and not the personal lives of athletes.  TMZ has that covered already.


Stay classy SI...

BillDavis
BillDavis

"He said that he's uncomfortable with the idea of a gay NFL player." 

I hate to break it to Dad, but there have already been gays in the NFL. And there are gays in the NFL now. So enjoy your Sundays.

cb6352
cb6352

@ScarFace292929  maybe his father was hoping for grand children. his little rant just put the kibosh on that. as a  father all you have to look for in your older years is grandchildren of your own blood to play with.. that little condfession killed that!

annebeth66
annebeth66

Especially since he sent him the text on his Fathers' birthday, when he knew he would be shocked. I wonder if this was a dig at him and Sam Jr. wanted to ruin his special day.

annebeth66
annebeth66

In the Black community, you have the problem of men being on the "down low", where to hide the fact that they are gay, men will date or marry women, as a cover. These men are getting infected with HIV and passing it on to their wives/girlfriends, who have no clue that they are in a relationship with a gay man. This has been a major problem for years and Black men need to be honest with themselves and stop pretending to be straight, when they are really gay. Hopefully with more Black men coming out as gay, others will feel more comfortable and come out too.

mashley278
mashley278

@AlyssaVallore Did you copy and paste this out of a pamphlet from 1982? You're part of the problem. Sticking your head in the sand and posting garbage like this. Go pray to whatever God is in vogue this week under whatever Bible has been mismanaged and rewritten to suit your religion's needs. My guess is that, at most, you have a high school education.

CoughingSoul
CoughingSoul

@slickwilly  Comment of the day!  (Even though Mike might have a brother or sister that renders it moot.)


RaiderEric
RaiderEric

@bornindetroit  are u Serious? Haha...Sam is the Defensive  player of the year in the SEC the toughest conference in college football...no way he will be an undrafted free agent...I say he will be a 1st-3rd round pick max...A speed pass rusher like him is must have on any NFL team...look at the Seahawks winning the Super Bowl.

RyanWeishaar
RyanWeishaar

@bornindetroit Homosexuality isn't a sin. I mean, according to an over 2000 year old fairy tale it is. But those guys owned slaves and treated women as property. Hardly a model for morals. 

BillieBob
BillieBob

@Robert96  

What's sad is that you are so homophobic, you would want your son to be something he's not.

Life isn't all about what you want...

axmickl
axmickl

@Robert96  You are absolutely right. I would have been crushed if my son had come home or texted me that he was gay. Instead, he gave me a grandson who I adore and who I live for. Sams dad will never have that pleasure and it has got to hurt.

Thundrra
Thundrra

@Robert96  I imagine you have more class than to celebrate your birthday at a Denny's.  As a man who loves food, one of the worst things you can hear. 

axmickl
axmickl

@BillDavis  I don't care if every player in the NFL is gay as long as none of them are my kids. If they are all gay what will the white groupies do for money.

CKirk
CKirk

And if he's as shallow and ignorant as your statement makes you look then he doesn't deserve any grandchildren "As a father all you have to look for in your older years is grandchildren of your own blood to play with". If Jr meets his soul mate and they decide to have children...he could use his semen to "make" a child of his "own blood"....or he and his partner/husband could decide to adopt! Either way the child will be HIS CHILD...and if his father loves this grandchild any less because the child is not genetically related then shame on him....he doesn't deserve to be a part of the child's life. I have a brother whom is adopted....he is no less my sibling than my "own blood" sisters. I hope you never have any grandchildren that aren't of "your own blood" because your comment shows that you will not love that child the way ANY child should be loved... And if you do...I hope and pray the childs parent will keep you away from that child so he/she will not feel hate....

JoeEarp
JoeEarp

@annebeth66

LOL what would give you the impression that Sam Sr. cares about Father's Day as a 'special day'? Talk about projecting your own thoughts...

JackKennedy
JackKennedy

@mashley278 .............. looks who's sticking their head in the SAND

PC made you stoooopid................. here's hoping for your family that the your PC problem does not negatively affect them............... but, looks like it will

good luck on your naivete............and ignorance.............at least you make the PC loons happy

JackKennedy
JackKennedy

@BillieBob ...................... lets screw up some more children with mos as faux parents 


but, bet you don't believe all the medical RESEARCH AND FACTS that show the damage to the children by the homosexuals as parents

 

Chris*Mathis
Chris*Mathis

must be one of those people who don't actually watch sports jus Sportscenter,Sam is projected as the 14 best Defensive End if any team drafted him 1-3 it would be for publicity...U said Seattle who was there speed rusher?? Chris Clemons is a traditional DE and Cliff Avril was bull rushing that entire game,u have a very novice sports mind

annebeth66
annebeth66

Let's be real: there are a lot of men that will not want him on an NFL team, because they don't want him in the locker room. If some dude thinks Sam is checking out his "junk" the next thing is a fist fight. Most teams have enough behavioral problems with players drug use, alcohol use, baby mamas, domestic violence etc. they don't want to deal with homophobia too.

Leon2
Leon2

@RyanWeishaar @bornindetroit  For thousands of years homosexual behavior has been viewed as immoral. It is the emphasis of this present generation that homosexuality should be embraced that is fiction.

dbush
dbush

Then why are you worried about "sin" anyways?

JackKennedy
JackKennedy

@BillieBob ......................... woooow, you are going to love watching people eliminate baby's that will test as homosexual................coming to the future lab near you

have fun with the future of full rejection by all the future parents that choose their kids..........you can demonize THOSE parents

BillieBob
BillieBob

@axmickl @BillDavis  

I hope nobody is unfortunate enough to be the son of a homophobe like you --  gay or straight.

annebeth66
annebeth66

LOL at projecting YOUR thoughts. Out of 365 days per year, I would not give my father upsetting news on his birthday. Maybe YOU would do that to YOUR father.

RaiderEric
RaiderEric

@Chris*Mathis  Time will tell what we think where he goes in the draft...Rankings are and can be overrated... I like to also rely on what ppl actually do on the field and stats don't lie...I rather have a proven football player than a Prototypical unproven player on my team..when I mentioned the Seahawks there DEs like Clemons and Avril rely on speed for sacks and they have the same body type as Sam 6'2-260 ...Small undersized DEs like these guys rely on Speed and quickness for Sacks...No way is Avril a Bull Rusher haha...He can't man Handle A 6'6-315 OT at his size haha...and u say I have a novice sports mind...U have proven your point with your Bullrush comment lol...and Go Oakland Raiders!!!!!

JackKennedy
JackKennedy

@BillieBob .................. thanks for admitting that the homosexuals are nothing but animals

BillieBob
BillieBob

@axmickl @RyanWeishaar @bornindetroit  

huh? 

Is there some "natural law book" where this is outlawed? BTW, same gender sex is common among lots of higher mammals, so what "natural" are you talking about?

annebeth66
annebeth66

What Black man goes to Denny's. Should have been at Applebee's all along, since he ended up there for a stiff drink after he got the tweet from his son.